Children are a great asset to a family if properly brought up and shown the right way by their parents. The relationship between parents and children can go a long way to describe the kind of person they will be in future. If there is a harmonious relationship between parents and children the children will be obedient and respectful to their parents, there will hardly be seen any rebellion in the children, but if it is the other way round, this is when you see children rebel against their parents.
Parents should always strive to be intimate in their marriage especially when children start coming into the marriage. Intimate relationship with a partner can impact much on the children. Children tend to act the way their parents behaved. This is why it is important that parents should not behave contrary to their children expectations. They must not create unnecessary tension in the home so that the children will notice it, if it happens that it can not be avoided, they must not make the children to notice such tensions. Let parents always create a harmonious environment for their children to live in, for a harmonious environment will have a sure positive impact on the children. They can become what they feel. So it is better to make them feel right
Major decisions concerning the children should be jointly taken by both parents. No parent must undermine the other parent contribution in any matter concerning their children or unilaterally take a major decision concerning the children; the decision must jointly be taken by both parents. If any parent unilaterally takes decisions that affect the children, then there must be a crack in the wall which needs to be amended before it become contagious.
When any of the children is in need of anything, the parent should make it easy for the children to ask from them. They must not appear to be difficult when this situation arise. When your children ask for anything reasonable from you and you know you can afford it, please don’t hesitate to oblige them for this will keep them in check. But if the demand can not be met due to one reason or the other, please do take your time to explain things to them, after all they are human and will understand you if you explain things to them properly. And if you must refuse them do it gently and lovingly.
Parents should not talk down the other parent before the children. If you do it what kind of impression are you creating? And what do you intend to achieve by talking down your partner? Are you doing it so that the children will love you more than your partner? Whatever may be your reason for doing it is not for the best interest of the family union, so desist from it and work together with your partner to build a happy home. Don’t turn the children against your partner for what ever reason you may have.
Always relate with your children as mates and not as superior, this will bring confidence in them and make them trust you. If you distance yourself from your children they will find it difficult to discuss any pressing issue with you, and if this happens, they may seek for advice from someone else which you may not like the future outcome.
Awesome article! This is an *Ideal* situation. what if a spouse is not *grown-up* or refuse to *growup*?
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