Disagreements are sure to happen in a marriage, they do not
have to lead to hurtful arguments. If there is any marriage where there is no
disagreement, then that marriage is not real , marriage involve two people with
two different back ground and up bringing, trying to reach a middle ground .
The focus of every married couple is to manage their differences effectively
and find a solution to any conflict they may have.
The following is quick fix on how to resolve conflict in
marriage.
- Your spouse of wrong doings during a Make your marriage a priority, it is common to resort to name calling during a conflict, couples should learn to respect each other. At all cost couples should avoid talking about divorce during conflict, because it can cause fear and distrust.
2. Couples must learn to listen to
each others feeling, even if you disagree with the appropriation of the
feeling.
3. Conflict resolution in marriage
must be here and now, past issues must not be brought into the present, since
all the past errors must have been forgotten. Bringing past matters into the
present aggravate things.
4. When resolving conflicts in
marriage, couples should avoid pointing accusation to each other, when you
continue to accuse conflict, your spouse will become defensive and it will not
help matter. Try to always restrict the matter to the present.
5. Always allow your spouse to
speak up, don’t interrupt each other when you are trying to resolve a matter,
it is not right and it will not help the situation.
6.Always set time apart to resolve
your differences, it will allow you to talk about your frustrations before it
gets to a boiling point, it will give both of you the chance to calm down as
well as distance yourselves from the problem, this time you can remain
objective while working things out.
7.Be honest about your true emotions,
but keep them under control Proverbs 29:11 says, A fool always loses his
temper, but a wise man holds it back (NASB). Proverbs 15:18 says, A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but the
slow to anger pacifies contention (NASB).
8.Agree with each other on what
topics are "out of bounds" because they are too hurtful or have
already been discussed (for example, in-laws, continued obesity, and so on).
Conflict in marriage cannot be avoided. However, it does not
mean that it is the end of the marriage. As long as couples remain calm,
creative and constructive to finding and exploring options together, marriage
conflicts can be resolved.
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