DOES SEX IMPROVE INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE?

If i may ask this simple question, why do we marry in the first place? Do we marry because of sex? Or is sex just part of the intimate relationship?

I believe the reason we get married to our spouse is to share our life intimately. As humans we yearn to be close to one another, to be fully known and to be unconditionally loved.

Intimacy includes physical closeness to your spouse, and many can easily translate this closeness to sexual relationship. However, sexual relationship is part of the a marriage intimacy, but people don’t get married because they want to have only sexual relationship with their spouse, no it goes way beyond that. Long married couples see sex as part of the ways they get closely intimate with their spouse.

Other forms of intimacy are emitional, intellectual , heart to heart conversations, working together at common goals and spiritual intimacy, True intimacy in marriage involve being honest with your spouse with  all things, and this honesty makes you vulnerable. Because you trust your spouse and you have this assurance that he or she will not do any harm to you, thereby giving your self completely to your spouse and risk the unknown.

Emotional intimacy is one of the strongest bond in marriage, the bond could be violated when a spouse shares intimate thought and feelings with friend, co-worker, or online.

This can be seen as a betrayal, even when infidelity was not committed.

In emotional intimacy, couples share their joy, fear, frustration, sorrow and anger with each other. But this does not mean that couples fight over little things. The challenge is to find a convenient way to do this respectfully. It can be very scary when emotional guard is let down.

Spiritual intimacy is very important in relationships, couple should not undermine the importance of prayer in their relationship, and they should put God first in anything, because that is the bed rock for a better tomorrow, any relationship without God will gradually heads for the rock.

There is also a sexual relationship; sex can bring intimacy to any marriage, because it is a moment of self- giving that you don’t share with any one except with your spouse. It celebrates our joy and stirs us out of apathy. The possibility of new life being born from this loving act is a miracle almost beyond comprehension.

Because we are human, we can not be always perfect. At times we may fall short of the ideal of never hurting our spouse. There are times when trust can be broken, at times like this; couples should just reach out to their deep reserve of love. Couples should always ask for forgiveness from each other, with this you can always keep the light of love burning without going off