When married couples start having
children, the closeness and intimacy in their union will start having a
downturn for the worse. The whole emphasis will now be shifted to the children.
Mother’s will now prefer the company of their children to that of their
husband. In as much as this is alright, we should also realize that the
children are, because we were.
Children need attention from their parents, they need to be shown love and care, and they need to be shown that we care for them. But this should not disrupt the intimacy that was once in the marriage.
Children need attention from their parents, they need to be shown love and care, and they need to be shown that we care for them. But this should not disrupt the intimacy that was once in the marriage.
Children are blessing to any
marriage and should be seen as such. When children start coming into a marriage
it helps strengthen a marriage, and help bring peace to a home, they increase
the joy of the family because of the addition to the family. But unfortunately
most homes experience a down turn when children start coming into the marriage.
The coming of children seems to widen the gap between a husband and wife. But
this should not be so. What are the reasons that make couples seems to be falling
apart when children start coming into the marriage?
The major reason why couples seem
to be falling apart when children start coming into marriage is stress. I am
not in anyway insinuating that children are burdensome to any marriage, what i
am saying is that children as an addition to the family will increase the
family expenses, this will in turn cause the man and the woman to work extra
hours to cater for the new additions to the family. This stress, if not
properly handled may affect a man’s love and care and make him unfriendly with
the family especially the wife. It is known that what you focus on tend to make
you. Don’t focus on your stress but rather focus on what you want to see in
your relationship with your wife and children. My suggestion is that men should
not allow work to come in between the relationship with the wife; the man
should always strive to balance the relationship.
Children being innocent and tender
needs extra caring from their mother. This is where most of the intimacy,
partners used to share begins to go down. Some women subconsciously transfer
all the love they have for their husband to the children, without living any
for the husband. He is now being seen as an outsider in his home. Sometimes a
woman will refuse sexual advance from the husband because she will be feeling
that the children may come knocking on the bedroom door. This is not naturally
right, why should a woman allow the coming of children in her marriage to
dictate how she relates with her husband? The relationship between a man and
the wife should not change because of this single reason. It should rather
increase the love for the children sake.
For close intimacy to exist in a
marriage where children have started coming, couples should make it a matter of
policy to balance the relationship between them and the children. The love must
not be one sided and stress must not be used as an excuse to stop relating with
your partner intimately.
for any marriage to last and the couple happy, intimacy must be maintained.
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