For a marriage to be
regarded as successful, the couples involved must have unique roles to play in
the marriage. The man is regarded as the head of the family and as such he is
expected to play a leadership role in the marriage. The leadership role was given
to man by God and should not be contested by women. This leadership role should
not be mistaken as being superior to the woman, a man can not be said to be
superior to the woman in any way, they are equal before God spiritually, but
with different physical functionalities.
God created a woman as a help meet, they compliment each other for the earth to function perfectly well. A man and a woman have equal grace with God. Apostle peter beautifully put it when he says ‘similarly, you husbands should try to understand the wives you live with, honouring them as physically weak yet equally heirs with you of the grace of life’ (1 peter 3:7 Philips). Many people have been unable to differentiate between spiritual equality and functional roles. The functional difference is examined in detail by Apostle Paul in Ephesians 5
God created a woman as a help meet, they compliment each other for the earth to function perfectly well. A man and a woman have equal grace with God. Apostle peter beautifully put it when he says ‘similarly, you husbands should try to understand the wives you live with, honouring them as physically weak yet equally heirs with you of the grace of life’ (1 peter 3:7 Philips). Many people have been unable to differentiate between spiritual equality and functional roles. The functional difference is examined in detail by Apostle Paul in Ephesians 5
The main ministry assigned to man by God is that of a loving
leader. He is not only to lead, but to lead by love. A wife needs the love of
her husband to function optimally, may be that was why God gave that
commandment through apostle peter. A woman needs a regular attention and love
from her husband, this will make her flourish more and bring out her best. Men
do not require high degree of assurance of love from their wife to perform
optimally. If your wife does not profess constant love to you, do not fret
about it because it is natural. But don’t stop showing love to your wife. The
moment you erroneously stop professing your love, she will be shaken to the dept
of her personality and will suffer to the extent that no man can comprehend.
Another way a man goes about his role as a loving leader is
by constantly showing love and concern to your wife, a woman is enraptured when
her husband expressed his love and concern for her, they always love when you
tell them “i love you” or “you look beautiful”, they also love to see the expression
of their husband’s love to them. The occasional presents you give to your wife
in ordinary times are more appreciated than the ones presented during festive
periods. Helping your wife do some house chore will not make you less a man,
help do the dishes and some other domestic works, it will greatly improve your
intimacy and make her to miss you when you are not around. Little things can
bring a lot of differences in your marriage relationships.
Women love tenderness from their husband, they love to be
respected, they love to be appreciated. A touch of the hand, patting on the
shoulder and tender words. Any type of tenderness makes a woman happy and moves
her to the deepest part of her being. She feels adored by her man and it makes
her happy and feels like a real woman.
When you hold your wife in a very high esteem, it makes her
feel like a queen. Treat your wife like a queen and you will see her tend to
act like one. It is a well known fact that when you place high value on a
person and make the person aware of your expectations for them, they tend to
become the person you see them to be and this is true with women. Treat them
with high esteem and you will see them with their best.
The power a man holds over a woman to bring out the best in
her or to demean her is awesome. If a woman is properly treated by her husband
she can not be easily attracted by another person. She finds fulfillment in her
marriage and will be contented with her husband.
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