WHY MARRIAGES BREAK UP

It is no surprise that one in every three marriages break up due to some avoidable reasons; most marriages are entered into just for the sake of it or to experiment with it. You don’t experiment with marriage to see whether it will work or not it is not an experimental lab

. What are the reasons for this unfortunate state of affairs rocking the marriage institution? The main factors why i think marriages are failing are stated below.

1. INADEQUATE PREPARATION FOR MARRIAGE.

Most marriages run into trouble waters because most couples fail to get the help they need either before their marriage or after their marriage. Young people who are about to get married do not get adequate preparation from their parents or from a marriage expert. If couples that are about to be married can give attention to marriage advice from their parents or a marriage expert i am convinced without doubt that the incessant marriage break up we hear almost on daily basis will  come to an end.

In the olden days you don’t court a lady before you marry her. At least from the part of the world where i come from, that is Africa, the bride will be chosen by the groom’s parents. The bride and the groom don’t need to know themselves; the only day they will know themselves is when the bride is finally sent to her husband. The groom and the bride must have gone through some home tutorial on what a marriage is all about, and they always emphasis to their children that a broken home is a taboo and must be avoided at all cost. There is almost a zero report of marriage breakup. Even if there may be any break up the rate is no where near what we have today. Adequate preparation for marriage will help would-be couples to know what they are about to face in future, it helps them prepare their mind against marriage odds.

2. NOT ADEQUATELY ACQUINTED WITH YOUR SPOUSE.

Some people make choice of their marriage partner by the physical appearance of their supposed spouse. They were dazed by the physical beauty of their spouse, forgetting that beauty does not make a perfect match in marriage; they forget that still - water runs deep and the dept could be dangerous. Intending couples must know the type of person they want to take in as their partner. It is not enough to say that it was love at first site, love at first site does not work in marriage, It is very important that couples have adequate acquaintance of the person they want to marry before they can go into marriage. You must know the persons family, try to know the type of job the person is doing and the type of friends that moves around him. If these few steps are carefully considered, marriage break up may be reduced considerably.

3. ROMANTIC LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH.

Another source of marriage break up is when couples try to build up a marriage with their pre –marriage romantic love. This is where the marriage problem will start from, because romantic love will crumble in no time, it can not stand the pressure of marriage alone. When the pressure of marriage sets in and romantic love begin to fade away, one of the couples will surely complain of neglect. Romantic love does not have on its own, what it takes to hold a marriage; it is too weak to stand on its own. Marriage needs a long range love that can survive all the troubles of marriage. The only love that can survive all the troubles of marriage is a love that has in it a degree of commitment. A love that has its foundation rooted in commitment can withstand any storm that comes against it. That is why it is very necessary that couples should always look beyond romantic love and focus more on commitment. Commitment can make you overlook certain things that can easily piss you off. Commitment can help couples build a solid marriage.

  

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