5 WAYS TO CONTROL ANGER IN MARRIAGE

Anger is a nature in man that forces him to act contrary to the law of universal harmony. When the spirit of anger comes into a man, it makes that person to act irrationally, it takes control of your whole being

and makes you do things that you couldn’t have done ordinarily, anger makes you say things that are not meant to be said. Through anger many marriages have hit the rock. But this spirit called anger can be controlled and be brought under check.

The controls i am about to share with you today, can only help bring anger under check. But there are exercises that those who are being ruled by the spirit of anger can take and bring anger under total control, but unfortunately, i can not discuss it now. However, my little piece of advice could help.

1. Focus on the positive side of your spouse: It is a well known fact that you can manifest what you feel inside of you. When you focus only on the positive side of your spouse, the negative side will make no meaning to you any more. The positive side will invariably overshadow the negative side. So no matter what your spouse has done wrong, it will not arouse your anger, you will not feel any anger in you, and even if you feel it you can control it.
2. Anger does not arise suddenly; it builds up over a period of time. To avoid this, it is important that you release yourself of any anger building up inside you by telling your spouse how you feel about a particular action that is making you feel hurt inside. Don’t bottle up your feelings only to burst into a sudden anger over a minor issue.
3. Always remember that your spouse is a part of you, sometimes you can get angry with yourself but not for long, you forget it the moment it hits you. You can also use that same principle for your spouse. If you can easily forgive yourself, you can also forgive your spouse easily.
4. Remember your vows to your spouse. When you were making marriage vows to your spouse you promised to love and protect and this include not being mad at your spouse at any giving opportunity. Putting  marriage vows into remembrance will help you put any anger that is welling up into check
5. And finally like i said earlier, anger builds up over a period of time. When you start having this feeling, avoid saying anything to your spouse, if possible, you take a long walk to allow the feeling die down or alternatively, when you notice that anger is welling up in you, just look for a quiet place and start practicing deep breathing, this will help calm you down .

COMMON SEXUAL PROBLEMS THAT CAN DISRUPT A MARRIAGE

There are three basic problems couples face in their sexual life. These sexual problems can sometimes be self-made, that is, couples ignorantly or subconsciously create a sexual problem that kept them wondering what the problem was. These sexual problems are: inability to reach orgasm, premature ejaculation and impotence. The first which is inability to reach orgasm has to do with women mostly, the second and the third is purely men’s problem. These problems can bring to an end any form of intimacy in marriage, if not carefully handled

Reaching a point of orgasm in sex is a major and probably the only sexual problem women face in their marriage life. It is estimated that a large percentage of women do find it difficult to reach orgasm in sex. Sometimes women say they are not sure if they have ever reached orgasm during sex. For some reasons, a small number of women fake orgasm to their husband, maybe not to arouse a feeling of sexual inadequacy in the part of the husband.

One of the reasons why a woman will not reach a point of orgasm is when there is inadequate foreplay before sex. Physical foreplay should always precede sex. When the foreplay is done intensively for 20 minutes before sex, women always reach a point of orgasm during sex. Another reason why a woman may not reach orgasm during sex could be attributed to repressed fear and anxiety, some women have gone through some harrowing experience during their growing years, may be they were raped by somebody they trust so dearly and this single experience made them lost whatever feeling they may have regarding sex.  Another reason why a wife may not reach a point of orgasm during sex is when a wife is feeling low esteemed; a wife may see her self as unworthy of love by her husband and therefore find it hard to be aroused for sex by her husband.

Most sexual problems that wife’s undergo can be overcome by their husband giving more care and consideration to foreplay before sex. If the problem is rooted in her self esteem, the husband can help bring out the best in his wife by making her feel wanted all the time. If the problem is caused by an unpleasant experience of rape, then counseling should be sorted out for her, to make her put the experience behind her and look to the future with hope.   

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