MARRIAGE INTIMACY TIPS.
Intimacy in marriage is a bed rock for a successful and blissful union. But how do we develop intimacy in our marriage? If we can find answer to this puzzle, then we have found the answer to the spate of divorce ravaging our society. What then is intimacy? According to wikipdia, an intimate relationship is an interpersonal relationship that involves physical or emotional intimacy. Physical intimacy is characterized by romantic or passionate sex and attachment, or sexual activity. By this we can say that intimate relationship is deeper than closeness. That is why the bible says that for this reason, a man and a woman will leave their parent’s home and come together as one; they are no longer two but one entity.
How do we create intimacy with our spouse? To have intimacy with your spouse the following attribute must be present.
1. COMMUNICATION
Married couple should endeavor to improve on their communication level, in a marriage where there is no proper communication the couples tend to misunderstand and mistrust each other; this can lead to constant quarrel and fight in marriage union. The reason marriage partners tend to quarrel most of the time is because of breakdown in communication. When there is proper communication in marriage, there will be absolute peace and intimacy
2. SHARING OF SECRETS
Sharing of secret between married couples can go along way to bring deep intimacy to their relationship. I have seen couples who can be mistaken for blood relations because of their intimacy, brought about by sharing secrets, i have also seen couples who are like arch enemies, always having quarrels and fighting because either one of them is hiding a secret . Sharing secrets between couples can go a long way to bring close intimacy between them
3.PLANNING YOUR FINANCE TOGETHER
It is important that married couples should always plan their finance together. It doesn’t matter who is bringing the money, whether it is the man or the woman, they should always workout together, how they intend to spend the money for the period. This can increase the level of trust between married couples.
4.COMMON VALUES
Married couples should have common values. Intimacy can not be produced when couples are not having common values. Couple should have common belief and core value, mutual perspective and common goal. In other words married couple should not have a wide margin of different in their core belief and goal. They must have a common goal in their marriage life. Even if there are differences in their core belief and values, it should be sorted out amicably; of course these areas must have been sorted out before the union was consummated.
SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP.
3. Sexual relationship between couples can be great in improving intimacy in marriages. Couples should always endeavor to give their partner great time in bed, this can go along way to bring couples together and discourage any form of infidelity. Married couples should not deny their partner sex without having any proper excuse, and the excuse must not be based on lies.
In conclusion, intimacy in marriage can strengthen a marriage and make it better. Try to understand your spouse in order to create a healthy relationship that can bring joy and happiness to both of you.
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